DON'T SAY
“Could you maybe do this if you have time?”
SAY THIS
“I'd like you to own the vendor report. It's due Friday. What do you need from me?”
Clear ownership, a date, and support make delegation stick.
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DON'T SAY
“Ugh, I'll just do it myself.”
SAY THIS
“Let's walk through it once together, then it's yours.”
Teaching it once frees you up for good.
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DON'T SAY
“Because I said so.”
SAY THIS
“Here's why this matters: the client renewal depends on it.”
People commit harder when they understand the reason.
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DON'T SAY
“Any questions? No? Great.”
SAY THIS
“What's one part of this plan that worries you?”
A specific prompt surfaces concerns people won't volunteer.
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DON'T SAY
“I'm the boss now, so things are going to change.”
SAY THIS
“I want to learn how things work before changing anything. What should I keep?”
Listening first earns trust from a team you just started leading.
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DON'T SAY
“I'm not sure. What do you all think?”
when you need to decide
SAY THIS
“I've heard everyone. We're going with option B, and here's why.”
Teams want input, but they need a leader to decide.
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DON'T SAY
“Let me know if you need anything.”
SAY THIS
“Let's meet for 15 minutes every Tuesday. Bring blockers and wins.”
A regular slot makes support real instead of theoretical.
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DON'T SAY
“Who messed this up?”
SAY THIS
“Let's figure out what caused this so it doesn't happen again.”
Fixing the process, not blaming people, keeps problems visible.
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DON'T SAY
“Upper management wants this, so…”
SAY THIS
“Leadership made this call. I support it, and here's what it means for us.”
Owning the message keeps your team's trust in you intact.
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DON'T SAY
“Just do whatever you think.”
SAY THIS
“You decide how. Check with me before spending over $500.”
Clear limits give people freedom to act without guessing.
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